In The Unoffendable Wife, Misty shares how she came to realize that the greatest threat to peace in her marriage wasn’t the big arguments or obvious conflicts, but the small, impulsive reactions tucked into everyday moments. An offhand comment, a misunderstood tone, a familiar irritation — and tension would linger for hours. Over time, Misty began to see a pattern: it wasn’t her husband’s words that were slowly chipping away at peace in their home, but her own defensiveness, her tone, and her need to be right.
Through a simple yet powerful practice she calls “the pause,” Misty discovered a better way forward. A breath, a whispered prayer, a moment of restraint — and suddenly there was space for God to move. The Unoffendable Wife invites readers into that same freedom, showing how surrendering our reactions allows the Holy Spirit to soften hearts, diffuse conflict, and restore peace before it takes root. Because lasting harmony in marriage doesn’t come from controlling your spouse, but from choosing a Spirit-led response.
About The Author
Misty Parenzan is an author, speaker, and homeschool mom of nine, wife to the love of her life, and Mimi to four. She and her husband have spent the last twenty-plus years building a life rooted in faith, family, and intentional living in the Florida Panhandle.
Misty’s relationship with God was not shaped by a perfect past or a polished faith, but by His relentless pursuit of her heart. What defines her today is not where she began, but the grace that met her along the way and continues to lead her forward...
Testimonials
"I read the entire book on the flight home from Germany!!!! You did a great job! It was an emotional ride reading of so many of the events of your past- some details I knew, others I didn’t, many I was blessed to walk alongside you through!!!! I loved going back and seeing God’s hand in all the missed vasectomy appointments, Saylor’s birth, Sage’s life (so many tears)! And I can remember exactly where I was sitting when you told me you were pregnant with Asher AND adopting Izzy! It made me miss you so very much!!!!"
~ Amanda Brenci
"He Was Always There is an amazing book about the harsh realities this world has to offer, met with the softening love of a transforming Savior. Misty pours out her heart in each chapter, exposing the cold dark world she once lived in, and ends each chapter with a glimpse into how a mighty God can make you new. This is a book for all people to see that God is always there even when you don't know it or even choose it, and how surrender can change everything!"
~ Amy Garcia
"Like Misty, I struggled with my identity for many years, using a variety of things to quiet the storm swirling inside of me. I had no idea I was even hurting because people don't like to talk about pain or trauma or anything that might hint they are human and actually experience something other than joy. Our world, which is laden with filters and facades, needs the vulnerability that Misty so naturally weaves with encouragement and biblical Truth. Having read her story, I am changed. You will be, too."
~ Amanda Armsey
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